Break the Cycle
When Life a Merrygo-Round of the Same Problems
Breaking free from recurring patterns and moving forward

Kunal Trehan
Have you ever felt like life keeps spinning you around the same issues, the same frustrations, the same setbacks? It’s as if you’re on a merry-go-round, working tirelessly to move forward only to nd yourself back in a familiar loop. Many of us, no matter how hard we try, feel caught in cycles of recurring problems—patterns that follow us through dierent situations and relationships, repeating in slightly dierent forms but with the same core issues.
Why do these patterns persist, despite our eorts, our insights, and even our growth? And more importantly, how can we nally step o this merry-go-round of recurring problems?
The answer lies in understanding how these challenges work and recognizing that every repeated problem holds a lesson that the universe is nudging us to learn. Once we uncover that lesson and integrate it into our lives, we break the cycle. Let’s explore how to identify and address these recurring issues, and start attracting more positive patterns into our lives.
Why Recurring Problems Are Part of Life’s Design
When life presents us with the same issue over and over, it’s often because there’s something we’re meant to understand, a specic lesson we’re meant to learn. Think of it as the universe delivering opportunities for growth—rst gently, and then with more urgency if we don’t recognize them.
Consider this analogy: Life’s challenges are like gifts from the universe. Some of these gifts are wrapped so plainly that we recognize them immediately as lessons or blessings, while others come disguised, waiting to be unwrapped only when we’re ready to see them for what they are.
Here’s how these “lessons” usually work:
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First Hit Life presents a challenge, gently nudging us to notice something important. If we understand the lesson, we move on; if not, the pattern is repeated.
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Second Hit If the lesson goes unlearned, life repeats the challenge in a slightly more intense form, giving us another chance to understand.
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Third Hit The pattern continues, with each recurrence of the problem becoming more intense, until we’re almost forced to learn and make a change.
The minute we absorb the lesson, the pattern ends. It’s like ipping a switch—the challenge loses its grip on us because we’ve grown beyond it.
The Key Questions That Break the Pattern
When challenges arise, especially those that feel all too familiar, it’s tempting to feel victimized or ask, “Why me?” or “What did I do to deserve this?” However, this mindset keeps us locked in the problem rather than nding our way out.
Successful people who’ve overcome repetitive patterns tend to ask two simple but powerful questions instead:
- “What’s the lesson I have to learn from this?”
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Every challenge holds a lesson. Rather than viewing problems as punishments or random events, consider them as opportunities for self-awareness and growth.
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By asking yourself what you need to learn, you shift your focus from blame or frustration to curiosity and growth.
- “What should be my next step?”
- Once you identify the lesson, the next step becomes clearer. Maybe it’s setting a boundary, changing a habit, or addressing an underlying fear. This question shifts you into action mode, breaking the cycle of repetitive inaction.
Asking these questions changes how you perceive challenges, allowing you to take control and break free from repetitive cycles.
Taking Accountability: The Power to Transform Your Life
One of the biggest breakthroughs in breaking negative patterns is to stop assigning blame. Whether it’s blaming a dicult boss, a stubborn partner, or an unsupportive family member, the truth is that lasting change begins with taking complete accountability for your own responses, attitudes, and actions.
When we take ownership, we open up a new level of power within ourselves. The question shifts from “Who’s at fault?” to “What can I do dierently?”
This is not about denying the challenges or complexities posed by others, but rather about recognizing that the only person we can truly control is ourselves. As soon as you adopt this mindset, you’ll notice:
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Less Conict: When you stop blaming others, you reduce unnecessary friction and increase your capacity for empathy and understanding.
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More Clarity: Accountability clears mental clutter, allowing you to see your own patterns more clearly
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Higher Vibrational Energy: Taking responsibility raises your energy level, making you feel more empowered and optimistic
When you focus on yourself rather than on external factors, you break free from recurring patterns that depend on assigning blame.
Identifying Patterns: Why Are You Facing the Same Problems?
Recurring problems in our lives can often be traced back to unaddressed personal patterns. Here are some common reasons why patterns repeat:
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We Haven’t Broken the Cycle: Repeating a behavior, mindset, or reaction without understanding its eects only perpetuates the problem. To break the cycle, we need to consciously change something within ourselves.
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We Haven’t Learned the Lesson: Every pattern has a lesson attached. Until we truly learn it, life will keep presenting the same issues in dierent forms.
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We’re Attracting Low-Energy Situations: Our energy level impacts our experiences. If we’re vibrating at a low level—due to resentment, fear, or other negative emotions—we’re more likely to attract situations that match that energy.
Once we learn the lesson and break the pattern, our lives undergo a noticeable shift. Suddenly, the same frustrations lose their power, and we start attracting situations and people that support our growth instead of holding us back.
Focusing on Self-Growth: The Ultimate Key to High Vibrations
When you focus on your own growth, self-improvement, and understanding, you naturally raise your vibrational energy. You start attracting positive experiences, supportive people, and opportunities that align with your elevated state of being.
Here are ways to focus on yourself and elevate your energy:
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Practice Self-Reflection Daily: Take a few minutes each day to reect on any recurring feelings or reactions. Ask yourself if there’s a lesson to learn or a pattern to break.
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Set Clear Intentions: Start each day with a clear intention, such as being patient, staying open-minded, or taking accountability. This keeps you grounded in your values and goals.
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Align Your Actions with High-Vibration Values: Focus on kindness, empathy, and helping others without expecting anything in return. When you prioritize adding value to the world, you elevate your own vibration naturally
As you focus on your growth, you’ll begin to notice a shift in the quality of people, experiences, and outcomes in your life. Your relationships will feel more harmonious, your work will ow more eortlessly, and you’ll nd joy in everyday moments.
Moving Forward: Embrace Abundance, Love, and Joy
Life’s challenges are not meant to keep us stuck but to help us grow and align with our highest potential. When we look within to identify and break recurring patterns, we begin attracting abundance, love, and joy into our lives. The process starts by focusing on our own improvement—being better than we were yesterday.
To summarise:
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Understand that life’s repeated challenges are opportunities for growth. Learn the lesson each pattern oers.
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Take complete accountability, removing blame from others and focusing on what you can change within yourself.
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Commit to raising your vibrational energy by cultivating empathy, kindness, and positivity in every situation.
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Focus nowhere but on yourself, for yourself, by yourself
When you direct your energy inward and work to become your best self, everything around you begins to improve. You’ll nd that the same job, the same relationships, and the same challenges no longer feel heavy. Instead, they transform into opportunities for connection, growth, and fulllment.
Remember: “What you focus on grows.” So, focus on raising your vibration, embracing life’s lessons, and stepping condently o the merry-go-round of repetitive problems. When you do, life will no longer be a cycle of frustration, but a journey lled with progress, meaning, and true joy.
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Best Wishes,
Kunal Trehan